Since the last post, I'm sure you've been getting your flattery on. Anyways, we never got to the issue of the why.
Why is flattery so important that it has to be an art and a science at the same time?
Well, that's simply because it makes the world go round. It makes the sun shine brighter, and it makes the chirping of the birds even more than musical.
Flattery isn't one of the 48 laws of power, neither is it one of the 7 keys to winning people. No, its simply a form of expression. Why then is it so powerful and important?
1. People only care about people they believe care about them too. Like a 'father' of mine will say, people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Nice compliments and gestures have a way of endearing hearts together.
2. People want to be complimented. The rest of what you see is just the fence. If you could walk through the gates and into their personalities, then you will realise that as people, we are all basically the same inside. Everyone wants to be loved and appreciated.
3. You never know whose day you're lifting or whose life you're saving. Having a terrible day at work (like I had today), busy, crazy unavoidable deadlines, you might be annoyed by a cheesy and cheap compliment, but your heart will melt and warm up a little inside to a nice, considerate and empathetic word.
In this era prevalent with depression and suicidal tendencies, ensure that your words bring colour and meaning to people's lives. If only we wore our problems on our foreheads, maybe then people will be nicer to every single person they meet.
4. It makes you feel good. It is impossible to live with envy, jealousy or bitterness if you genuinely always seek out good in people to compliment, or seek out good in yourself to show an act of kindness.
Jolly-loving-smiling Omonye might not exactly get how or why this should be an issue, but I'm sure there are people out there that doubted the relevance of paying compliments or being nice just because.
I hope this has helped you and changed you into seeking out good in others to compliment and seeking out good in yourself to do for others.
After all, look at it, if you're not smiling because of someone, and someone isn't smiling because of you, what exactly are you doing with your life?
Well scripted. Making a difference and reaching out despite a busy and fast-paced work/environment.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much. Afterall, we work to support our living not living to support our work.
DeleteBut then again, for the sake of passion and genius we should also support our work with our living.
DeleteIt's pretty much a no-way-out maze I don't mind living in. Lol
*If you're not smiling because of someone, and someone isn't smiling because of you, what exactly are you doing with your life?. This is good food for thought
DeleteThanks. Yea i think so too
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